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3 good things a baecation can do for your relationship

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Going on this romantic type of vacation can be the best move you ever make in your relationship.

A baecation is simply a vacation with your bae/boo.

It depicts hanging out, or being with your partner at a location, usually somewhere far from home, for extended periods of time.

Here are three great reasons why going on one of this can be the best move you ever make in your relationship.

On a baecation you can forget about work and focus on being with the love of your life. You get to relax your nerves, talk deeply, share dreams and ideas, engage in games, companionable silence and every other romantic thing partners do.



Truth is, knowing them more will help you love them even better.



The things you see on this type of trip could cement your opinion of that guy as the man you really want to spend the rest of your life with, or it could raise major questions in your heart and make you mighty doubtful of their suitability to the kind of married life you dream of.

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How you can help your parents live longer, healthier lives.

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How you can help your parents live longer, healthier lives.

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That said, there are still some things we can do that can help our parents/guardians to be loved and ultimately, these steps that help them live longer, healthier lives whilst they are still with us.

Here are some of these steps:

Because our parents raised us, it is very easy to forget that they are human and imperfect as well.

They gave up a great part of their lives go raise us and they do get lonely when they don’t hear from us.

Research has shown a correlation between loneliness and deteriorating health in older adults.

Chances are that your parents have one or two health conditions that they are treating. This usually comes with age, so play an active role in their health status.

Get your parents a Blood pressure monitor and a Blood sugar monitor. If they are hypertensive, call to see if they are taking their medication judiciously. Ask your mum about her arthritis and what her Doctor has suggested. Arrange for annual health checks. Get them a health insurance plan.

Many of them are stubborn and fixed in their ways, but they listen when the advice comes from their kids. Take care of their health.

Most parents aren’t even big on the amount of money you send to them. For them, it’s usually the act of giving that counts.

They appreciate the fact that you thought about them and sent them money. It makes them feel loved.

Your parents aren’t as physically strong as they used to be. They may never admit it to you (especially our mothers) because they don’t want to be a burden, but they would appreciate some help around the house.

What you can do, if you are able to, is to hire someone who can visit them regularly to help with chores, daily activities and health checks. There are agencies who provide these services, through maids and even professional nurses. Your parents will thank you for it.

We all have Mothers who share WhatsApp broadcasts with us (sometimes, without even verifying whether the broadcast is true or false) .

Then we have fathers who add us to different WhatsApp groups without our permission.

What other tip would you like to add to this list?

Share them with me in the comment section!

Toluwani Binutu is a Medical Doctor based in the UK. With experience in a wide range of specialties, from Emergency medicine to Health insurance , he is passionate about wellness. He believes that the key to living your best life lies in your ability to stay healthy. For more health tips , you can check out his Instagram handle @tolubinutu

Pulse Contributors is an initiative to highlight diverse journalistic voices. Pulse Contributors do not represent the company Pulse and contribute on their own behalf.

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Here are some tips I have compiled to improve your chances of getting pregnant sooner rather than later.

(1) Carry your Doctor along

I find that it’s usually best to get your Doctor involved from the beginning. This is because it helps to know that you and your partner are fertile enough and also physically able to begin this next chapter of your lives.

Your Doctor will most likely place you on folic acid as well, to reduce the risk of birth defects. Also, if any problems are detected by your Doctor, treatment can begin sooner rather than later.

Fortunately, most causes of Infertility can be treated so you shouldn’t be afraid to get tested by your Doctor.

Dear woman, an important thing to do is to ensure that you’re having sex at the right time in your cycle.

This is usually harder to predict in women who don’t have regular cycles. I recommend using an Ovulation predictor kit or app.

Doctors recommend having sex 3 times a week at least, if you’re looking to get pregnant. This sex should be vaginal, unprotected and ejaculatory in nature.

So, make sure that you aren’t using any form of protection or birth control, and also make sure that the sperm enters the vagina. After sex, it’s a good idea for the woman to lie in bed for about 15 minutes.

There’s no need to raise your legs or put them on a wall though. The aim is to get pregnant, not to join Egbé (attend a Witches meeting)

Also, avoid lubricants that have any of these ingredients: Glycerin, silicone, flavoring, any kind of sugar, preservatives like parabens, propylene glycol, benzocaine, antibacterial agents like chlorhexidine gluconate, and spermicide, usually called nonoxynol-9 (N-9)

Good fertility lubricants include Pre-seed, canola & mineral oil.

(5) Mind your Age (Especially for women)

A woman’s peak fertile years are between her late teens and her late 20s.

From the age of 30, her fertility starts to decline and this decline gets faster from 35 years. But this is just a general occurrence : There are plenty women who have gotten pregnant in their late 30s and even 40s.

So, don’t fret. Just keep taking the right steps and working closely with your Doctor.

(6) Maintain a healthy body and mind

So, feed on healthy food (also remember to take adequate amounts of folic acid), get adequate rest, reduce your caffeine intake, get physically active, maintain a healthy weight, cut out/reduce alcohol and quit smoking. Also, be patient with yourself and keep doing the right things.

Toluwani Binutu is a Medical Doctor based in the UK. With experience in a wide range of specialties, from Emergency medicine to Health insurance , he is passionate about wellness. He believes that the key to living your best life lies in your ability to stay healthy. For more health tips , you can check out his Instagram handle @tolubinutu

Pulse Contributors is an initiative to highlight diverse journalistic voices. Pulse Contributors do not represent the company Pulse and contribute on their own behalf.

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The Òrìsà-worshipping people of Brazil

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Salvador, Bahia state, is one of the many Brazilian areas influenced heavily by West African Slaves, birthing traditional worship of Yoruba gods, festivals and food.

The African slaves from the west, carried along their Yoruba religion with them when they were brought to Brazil. This religion is referred to as Candomblé by Afro-Brazilians — a religion that seeks harmony with nature.

Mode of Òrìsà/orixá worship

Afro-Brazilians worshippers cherish these gods and have been doing so for over 500 years. Somehow, they realised the fusion of Catholicism with this traditional worship, doctrines and beliefs. In the religious ceremonies, worshippers dress in the colours of the orixás (white) and place food at the altar before singing special songs and dancing precisely choreographed steps to the sacred drums.

There are other variations of African traditional worship across Brazil, and this reflects the different beliefs brought by different groups of slaves from Africa.

Òrìsà worship is best explained after explained, so a visit to one of the terreiros in Bahia is encouraged.

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Why is paternity fraud high in Nigeria? The answer to this is complex

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Why is paternity fraud high in Nigeria? The answer to this is complex

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In 2015, Mike tied the knot with his longtime girlfriend. Shortly after, they gave birth to a bouncing baby girl.

Mike’s marriage could have been a fairy tale, but two years later, through a series of unfortunate events, Mike found out that the child he called his daughter wasn’t his. His world crashed in an instant.

To deal with the pain of knowing that the little girl in his house wasn’t his, he moved to South Africa.

While Mike found out early on in his marriage, some men, unfortunately, discover that they have raised another man’s child much late in their lives.

In February 2017, a Nigerian man identified as Oscar found out that 32-year-old Valentine wasn’t his biological son. The clip was from the Jeremy Kyle Show in the United Kingdom which later went viral.

The two stories above are examples of paternity fraud.

Paternity fraud is when a mother deliberately misidentifies her partner as the biological father of her child. If you let the Internet tell it, paternity fraud is high in Nigeria backed up with unverified stats.

This leads Pulse to ask an expert if paternity fraud is truly high or is it one of the fake news stories online.

“Nigeria ranks high in paternity fraud. The current statistic for this puts Nigeria as the second highest in the world with around 30% of cases of paternity fraud in the population” Abasi Ene-Obong, CEO and Co-founder of Stack Diagnostics tells Pulse.

The 30% statistic (or 3 out of 10 Nigerian fathers) is not new. Within the last couple of years, this statistic has bubbled to the surface in social media conversations.

While experts believe that paternity fraud is high in Nigeria, there is a problem holding on to the 30% data as the gospel truth.

Ene-Obong explains further, “As with most health-based statistics in Nigeria, they are either under-reported or exaggerated because the problem typically lies in how the sample is collected. It is possible that there was some sampling bias to this 30% number but even for sampling biases, that number is quite high.”

According to him “it isn’t fake news but at the same time, the only way we can know for sure is if an independent study is done that seeks to eliminate sampling biases.

“In other words, the only study we have about this phenomenon puts it at 3 out of 10, so to a large extent that is factual. An independent study that shows us less or more will also be factual and will dispel the 30% number.”

“I won’t comment on whether spouses cheat or not. But I will say access to paternity tests in Nigeria is very limited, and where available, costs are high. This certainly enables paternity fraud” explains Ene-Obong.

A paternity test at Diagnose Me, a genetic and specialist service provider in Africa, goes for N80,000 ($220.06). With this high cost, male partners and husbands do not necessarily consider doing paternity tests for their kids until the need arises.

And when does this need arise?

Paternity tests in Nigeria are usually done for immigration reasons, health reasons or when there is a clear indication or strong suspicion that a female partner or wife has been unfaithful.

As sensationalist as it sounds, paternity fraud is caused by women who cheat on their husbands. Yet, there is a dissatisfaction with this answer to a phenomenon that suspiciously feels multi-layered.

In troll fashion, some have been quick to point at a shady news article from 2012 that claims that Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world. The reported survey was allegedly carried out by Durex, the famous condom brand.

Pulse has reached out to Durex to confirm if the reported survey is true. Durex is yet to respond.

Dr. Abiodun Salami, Chief Medical Director, DNA Centre, Lagos in an interview with Vanguard in 2012 gave his reasons why paternity fraud is high in Nigeria.

Salami further says “I have seen and discussed with women who for one reason or other decide in their own wisdom to give another man’s child to their husbands without the husband’s knowledge.”

A 2018 global family planning report by International Conference on Family Planning (ICFP), Nigeria has recorded over 1.3 million unwanted pregnancies this year so far.

Also, only 13.8% of Nigerian women use contraceptives in the year under review.

A Nigerian feminist by the name of Damilola Marcus offers a complex mix of reasons for the paternity fraud phenomenon in the country.

“It might be tied to our very strong cultural inclination towards reproduction and lineage longevity. Expanding the family unit as a prerequisite for social acceptance may be a cause.

“Our criminalisation of abortion may be an added factor… It may lead to more people having to find other ways to deal with pregnancy as a complication from infidelity or fornication (sex outside of marriage)… which means it can also be linked with pressure on women to marry and procreate only within marriage as well as be linked to our obsession with purity culture particularly in women” she says.

Marcus offers another reason for paternity fraud in Nigeria. “It can also be linked with women’s predisposition by socialisation to protect men’s reputation added to our ignorance of reproductive issues.

“We basically have women protecting their husband’s ‘masculinity’ by giving him a child that isn’t his. Our stigmatisation of adoption is also a factor.”

The study also found that the possible major causes are poorly treated sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and hormonal abnormalities, consumption of excessive alcohol and tobacco smoking.

Dr Abayomi Ajayi, a consultant obstetrician/gynaecologist told news website Leadership that “12% of men who visit clinics in Nigeria do not have sperm even though they have semen.”

In Africa, when a couple struggles to give birth, the wife is considered to be barren first. That a man might be shooting blanks is an afterthought that is usually whispered.

Even with advances in medical science, the patriarchal African society still considers it a taboo to speak about a man coming up in short in the baby making department.

With an immense pressure of Nigerian women to display the ‘fruit of her womb’, some get other men to do deliver the goods.

The underlying factor in this topic is cheating. While Nigeria’s patriarchal society might raise pitchforks and want to slam adulterous Nigerian women, we have to know that cheating is not only exclusive to them.

Nigerian men cheat too and if you let Nigerian women tell it, a whole lot. The phrases ‘men are scum’ and ‘Yoruba demon’ were birthed from the philandering ways of Nigerian men.

Even men in marriages are not seemingly held back by their vows. On Twitter NG, single ladies bemoan how married Nigerian men slide into their DMs frequently.

Men, who normally don’t get reprimanded for cheating, are not life bearers and pregnancy is not an outcome of their adulterous ways. For women who step out of their marriage, pregnancy is a very possible outcome.

“Focusing on just the transgressions of women is purely patriarchal. Does this mean what these wives have done is justifiable? No. But if we are stressing the issue of paternity fraud then we should express equal outrage on Nigerian husbands who cheat too” 26-year-old Teni (not real name), an accountant tells Pulse.

Should you have paternity tests done on your children?

Abasi Ene-Obong offers his advice. “Love is the key and if there’s anything possibly standing in the way of giving love to your children you should remove it. Sometimes that thing is doubt that the child is really yours.

“Some men love their children regardless and a paternity test won’t change that. The biological father isn’t always the same thing as a father, and what children really need is just ‘father’.

This might be easier said than done.

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Bitter Leaf: The health benefits of this plant are miraculous

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Historically, the leaf has been used as a treatment for many ailments from malaria, typhoid, diabetes, diarrhea, tuberculosis, gallstones and kidney disease, to the prevention of cancer and lowering of hypertension. The leaf has also been proven to possess antibacterial and antifungal properties.

Bitter leaf is a well known traditional remedy for stomach aches. A study in the Toxicology Reports journal has also shown that the plant may provide some protection from stomach ulcers. It is thought that the antioxidants in bitter leaf contribute to these positive gastric effects.

Prostate cancer is a relatively common cancer especially amongst older men. While following the treatments prescribed by a medical professional are essential for successful treatment of prostate cancer, bitter leave has shown promise in the prevention of the disease by a study in the Nutrients journal . The same research also noted that the plant may improve survival rates as well.

While some people fall asleep as soon as they hit the pillow, not being able to sleep is an issue for many. Insomnia can range from an occasional inconvenience to a debilitating condition. Bitter leaf has traditionally been used to help with insomnia.

Drinking a Bitter leaf solution at night, before bed is thought to bring on a calmness and relaxation that aids sleep.

A study in the International Journal of Reproductive Biomedicine has shown that the plant may have a positive effect on sperm quality. All in all, the generally high levels of vitamins and minerals in bitter leaf are beneficial to overall health, so will be beneficial to a couple trying to conceive.

Bitter leaf contains flavonoids, which have powerful antioxidant effects, and can help with treating a variety of health issues such as a high fever. In particular, bitter leaf was historically used in traditional medicine for the treatment of the bacterial infection typhoid fever.

A study in the Journal of Food Biochemistry has shown that bitter leaf inhibits particular processes in the body, and as a result, may have a positive effect on high blood pressure. The antioxidants in bitter leaf are also another factor that can further aid with the treatment of the condition.

Vitamin C is a great antioxidant mineral found in bitter leaf, which plays a vital role in the body, including the maintenance of bones and teeth.

It also contains traces of vitamin K which helps the body maintain healthy bones and prevents the weakening of bone tissue, also known as osteoporosis.

Another nutrient in bitter leaf is vitamin E, which serves as an antioxidant fighting against free radicals that have harmful effects on the body’s system.



For traditional medicinal purposes, bitter leaf is often consumed by chewing the tender stem to release a bitter liquid. Alternatively, you can pound the fresh leaves in a mortar and to press out the juice. Add a pinch of salt to three tablespoons of the undiluted liquid and drink.

Remember to always consult with your doctor about any medical concerns, conditions and supplements that you may be taking. Always take the advice of a medical professional on how to proceed with your treatment.

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What's the difference between having sex and making love?

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One is even tempted to ask, aren’t both of these things supposed to mean the same thing? After all, the bottom line is that in both situations, bodies connect and sexual sparks are sent flying. So what could possibly be the distinguishing factor between these two?

Apparently there is a difference between the act of making love and having sex.

And the singular distinction is in the state of mind of both people engaging in the act; the level of connection and all the situations surrounding and leading up to the act itself.

Chimps, rabbits, bulls, Zebras… they all have sex. That’s exactly the category into which that need belongs. It is a thing devoid of the emotional dimension that sex often comes with.

As Christina Antonyan of Thought Catalogue writes in 2016;

“It’s very easy and ordinary to just have sex, but to know how to connect… on a deeper level, and win over heart, mind and soul takes a little bit of commitment.

“…sex without love is not lovemaking.”

Despite the moral campaigns against it, people have sex with random strangers all the time. Several forms of casual sex is indeed a thing that society brims with. People have been known to explore this anti-social aspect of their humanity to mind-blowing effect. And it’s just fine so far these are consenting adults who recognise all the things that could go wrong and decide to still engage in the act – with or without adequate precautions.

On the flip side, love-making is what people aspire to when they get into relationships and marriages. It is that longing for something deeper, a deep-rooted intimacy that surpasses the passionate nights and morning quickies.

You become your authentic self at that moment,” adds Christina Antonyan.

Lovemaking is a summation of the affection you feel towards the person even when they are fully clothed, sharing their dreams with you and you with them. It is the concern for them and their well-being; it is the connection on a greater pedestal which continues even when the adrenaline rush of sex has dissipated. It is the days shared, memories created, problems solved together, losses suffered together, emotions shared, pain together borne, hurdles together crossed and triumphs together won.

And all these things combined make for a closeness so intimate; and this understanding beyond the visceral is what makes for the best sex ever. The type you would call love-making.

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